Summer of Love
The setting is unmistakably Hawaii, and Shelley and I, classic 1968: blond and tan in our stylish mini-dresses, the telltale bulges of early pregnancy thus far absent from our slender frames. We were...
View ArticleWhen You Didn’t Support This Pregnancy
Your strong-arming and personal desires created a statistic out of us, a punch line, a stereotype and titles that we will forever be known as….a birth mom...a birth child, now YOU want a relationship...
View ArticleRecalculating the Grays
At the same moment that I relished that feeling, I hated it. The second, I felt that I was doing exactly what I should have been doing, I wished I was on a different path. The confidence that I have...
View ArticleCosts of Adoption: Increased Secondary Infertility Rates Infographic
According to multiple studies, women who relinquish a child to adoption are forty to sixty percent more likely to experience secondary infertility that other mothers. Adoption agencies, facilitators,...
View ArticleOne Mom’s Journey Coming Out of the Adoption Cellar
A Guest Post About Speaking Out on Adoption Truths: I speak out about adoption, not because of ‘poor me’, but to bring awareness of what is happening in the world with hopes that unethical practices...
View ArticleGeeks and Gamers for Good
It wasn't fully diagnosed until he was 2, but his pediatrician heard his heart murmur soon after birth. It was hoped that it would clear up on its own as many babies have ventricular holes that do...
View Article30 Days of Adoption Activism
For National Adoption Awareness Month, here's 30 days of adoption activist activities that you can do instead of just complaining about adoption! Spread Adoption Truths outside the walls of...
View ArticleSearching for Adoption Healing and Birthmother Advice
It's bad enough that the adoption industry is still promoting that somehow it is OK to relinquish a baby to adoption and that the long term effects of relinquishment on birthmothers does not exists...
View ArticlePublic Worries and Celebrations; The Adoptee Birthday
Today, I shall find reasons to celebrate. My son was born 26 years ago today and though was separated from him for 19 years and 111 days until I saw him again, his birth is known and celebrated among...
View ArticleAnd on Day 22 of National Adoption Awareness Month, She Broke
I could not stand to see nonstop "Yeah Adoption" posts or images or news articles. And 30 days of adoption activism was NOT scheduled and so it just went quiet. read more... →
View ArticleFive Lies About Grief & What No One Tells You about Birthmother’s Losses
In many ways, you are restarting your life from scratch. You were not a birthmother before. You did not have this child before. Now you do. You are newly born as a mother, as THIS mother, for THIS...
View ArticleDon’t Put Off an Adoption Cry
I do not "relax" well. I feel guilty when I am not producing things, making things, painting things, cleaning, things, commenting with a vengeance, writing, building sites, networking, etc. Yet, I have...
View Article“Instructions for a Bad Day” by Shane Koyczan
Silence left to its own devices, breed's silence. So speak and be heard. One word after the next, express yourself and put your life in the context – if you find that no one is listening, be loud. Make...
View ArticleBirthmother Commentary: On and Off Line
If birthmothers had to be identified all the live long day some people might find the need to pelt us with rocks or at least, if one was ever to take seriously what one reads online, hurl vast insults...
View ArticleThe Birthmother Shift – 12 Years In an Adoption Fog
At or around age 12, childhood is over. And for birth mothers, it is obvious that we missed the whole thing. It's over. Our child is in the final stages of growing up without us. Their whole childhood...
View ArticleHow to Use Social Media for An Adoption Search
To get your search found by the right person should they be searching for you. There are usually three things that are identifiers in an adoption search: Sex of the adoptee, birth date and location....
View ArticleChicago Screening Adoption Film; “A Girl Like Her”
What: Film Screening of A Girl Like Her" and Discussion with Filmmaker Ann Fessler When: Thursday May 1st, 2014 at 6:00pm Where: The Museum of Contemporary Photography (MoCP) Ferguson Lecture Hall, 600...
View ArticleAdoption by Gentle Care; An Adoption Agency in Ohio Not so Gentle, Not so Caring
I don't need to tell you what to do. I don't need to tell you to be outraged. I don't need to tell you how to feel about this mother and baby boy. I just ask that you help me do something. He is only 3...
View ArticleUpdating on the Current UnEthical Adoption in Ohio
This CAN be over any minute. If the HAP's returned Camden to Adoption by Gentle Care and aren't willing to take the bullet; if the DNA results prove that they will fighting both an illegal consent of...
View ArticleThe Crucifixion of Carri; How to Make her Less Than a Human Being Worthy of...
I know how this story goes. Grayson Vaughn's father Benjamin was a "criminal", Dusten Brown was a "deadbeat dad" and I suppose Carri must require some sort of character assassination as well. read...
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